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Post by iamjumbo on Jan 11, 2011 18:58:17 GMT -5
i think it would cover..loveless marriages and prostitution..based on lust etc There are mzny reasons why a man or woman would have sex with someone they did not like. I have done it on five occasions and for different reasons each time. On one occasion I hated the girl but found her extremely attractive. On another occasion I did it out of revenge because she was an arrogant person and had deeply hurt a personal friend of mine. On another one I was drunk at a party and so was she and we both ended up having sex which neither of us really wanted. On another occasion I was lonely, depressed and had not been able to find a woman to share my life with and one came on to me so I took her up on her offer. On the other occasion I was also lonely, depressed and without a partner and I engaged in a business transaction with a woman who was hard as nails. I'm not proud of these five lapses of judgement but at least I have the courage to own up to my misdeeds. Of course I have had many more relationships where I liked the girl but not enough for it to develop into something more - as well as ones where I loved her but she did not love me (that happened to me twice). i can see the revenge f..k, but the rest you would have at least liked something about her. hell, i at least liked every one night stand i ever had, even if it was only for that night
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Post by jaysparrow38 on Jan 17, 2011 11:48:17 GMT -5
Easy question.
Love should be simple. It is caring deeply for someone or something. People complicate it by disecting it and thinking about it too much. I love beef roast I love a well mixed drink I love my dog I love my fine woman What's so hard about that?
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Post by maggie on Jan 17, 2011 12:37:24 GMT -5
You don't love them all equally though, do you jaysparrow?
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Post by iamjumbo on Jan 17, 2011 18:18:19 GMT -5
Easy question. Love should be simple. It is caring deeply for someone or something. People complicate it by disecting it and thinking about it too much. I love beef roast I love a well mixed drink I love my dog I love my fine woman What's so hard about that? i would trust that you love your woman and dog differently than you do your beef and drink
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Post by jaysparrow38 on Jan 17, 2011 20:27:10 GMT -5
You don't love them all equally though, do you jaysparrow? Ah Maggie, that turns into more complications. It isn't a question of more or less because it is, quite obviously, different kinds of love. Jumbo points that out exactly. I would not be having my dog for a succulent dinner or petting my roast beef. Would not hold and cherish my drink, nor make a toast with my lady. It is so obvious these are different kinds of love that there should be no need to explain. Yet they all involve caring from a personal standpoint. Love is caring deeply for something or someone.
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Post by Erasmus on Jan 18, 2011 2:10:43 GMT -5
I prefer the languages where it is the choice of object that shows degree of intimacy, not the verb. So Je vous aime and Je t'aime. Under different conditions, expression differs. The emotion beneath is the same. How you express it is a personal matter. Although people who pride themselves in promiscuity make an issue of it, they may in fact be far more protective and hostile to casual affection than others with more formal inhibitions. The more promiscuous I find people claim to be, the more restricted to what they think others should be shocked by. Really free people don't feel the need to tell everybody until it's waved in their face.
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Post by Jessiealan on Jan 18, 2011 13:41:10 GMT -5
The more promiscuous I find people claim to be, the more restricted to what they think others should be shocked by. Really free people do't feel he need to ell everybody unti lit's waved in their face. Do you mean to say you think promiscuous people choose that life style for the shock value?
It is possible some do, but it is also possible they are too insecure to maintain a loving relationship and think they do not have much to offer.
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Post by fretslider on Jan 18, 2011 15:19:55 GMT -5
"The more promiscuous I find people claim to be, the more restricted to what they think others should be shocked by. Really free people don't feel he need to ell everybody unti lit's waved in their face. "
A very pertinent point. Why do some people feel they have to tell everybody? Is it some kind of insecuriority complex, is it a deep seated need to impress?
It really does not impress at all, in fact it makes one cringe.
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Post by iamjumbo on Jan 18, 2011 17:30:52 GMT -5
"The more promiscuous I find people claim to be, the more restricted to what they think others should be shocked by. Really free people don't feel he need to ell everybody unti lit's waved in their face. " A very pertinent point. Why do some people feel they have to tell everybody? Is it some kind of insecuriority complex, is it a deep seated need to impress? It really does not impress at all, in fact it makes one cringe. of course, when you were fifteen say, sitting around jabbering with the chaps, weren't you talking about all the p..sy you'd had? same thing now. the clowns that run their mouths about it are liars
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Post by sadie on Jan 19, 2011 11:17:55 GMT -5
Love changes. There are the hot mad passionate times, the easy friendship times, the times when you are the strong one, when you are the weak one....and the times you hate each other. Between all that is something that ties you to that person that you can't explain........something that makes you stay. For anyone that thinks that a relationship is 50/50.....they are insane. There are times it is 100/0 and may be that for awhile......then there are times it is 100/100 and it still doesn't seem like enough........
When all is said and done though......without all the lows.......you would not experience the highs........and that is what the ride is about.
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Post by Erasmus on Jan 19, 2011 17:33:09 GMT -5
"The more promiscuous I find people claim to be, the more restricted to what they think others should be shocked by. Really free people don't feel he need to ell everybody unti lit's waved in their face. " A very pertinent point. Why do some people feel they have to tell everybody? Is it some kind of insecuriority complex, is it a deep seated need to impress? It really does not impress at all, in fact it makes one cringe. A bit what Jumbo said really, but possibly not for quite the same reasons. Come to think of it, I find a similarity with booze. I've found that quite often, people who bore everybody rigid with their sexual exploits do have that kind of immaturity that still thinks it's something of interest (and possible envy) about it Gor, that Sharon wuz reelly orf er fice an Darryl pukin up evyweer an we ad a reel laaafff. At the same time, it's all very straight stuff and they can be some of the most conservative shocked about anything they think a bit perverted that a lot of maturer people would just think Takes all sorts about if they notice it at all. It's the chatty friendly people who hardly mention any sex life that you find running the bondage blog or with the rubber wardrobe! It used to be something that often came up on adult boards like Fetish Nation (not the current one, if that still exists at all), just how critical different groups often are of others (We are proud perverts but they have something wrong with them) and intolerant of any deviation from the group's ideal. In fact they are just the same as political and religious groups laying down the Law of Right Thinking and sniffing heretics out like the Grand Inquisitor. For the political side, as a good laugh I recommend Tariq Ali's 'Redemeption' Note, that the Ultimate Solution here has been well overtaken by Conspiracy Theorists convinced that it has all been happening just like that since ever.
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Post by beth on Jan 22, 2011 2:14:18 GMT -5
I like your reply, Sadie, but instead of describing love, I think it's a great description of a relationship.
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Post by Erasmus on Jan 22, 2011 13:50:44 GMT -5
Is love possible without a relationship though? Not all relationships go as far as love, but I find myself mystified by people who think of love in a possessive controlling manner that they would feel quite out of line with friends. It is true that the closer you are, the more leeway you can sometimes take because you accept each other as you are and not just for common interests, but I don't see how it's possible to claim that you love somebody without also being friends: it's a more intense form of the same affection, usually expressed more physically.
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Post by fretslider on Jan 22, 2011 14:02:21 GMT -5
Surely, if one is in love it is a relationship, even if it is unrequited or at a distance.
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Post by sadie on Jan 22, 2011 17:10:46 GMT -5
Well....I don't know.....Pierce Brosnan doesn't know that he and I were having a hot heavy love relationship. But recently I've left him for Damon Bennett from Holmes on Homes.
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