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Post by Wonder Woman on Aug 23, 2011 14:44:11 GMT -5
Shaddup Sadie!! Can we move on to a discussion I'd way rather have? ... like my headache, my car-wreck, my bad hair day Hush! I'm not thru talking about my friends....which are way worse than yours........I also broke a nail while I was writing this....and I think my coffee got cold....which will ruin my whole day. I'll let you know when it's your turn! I'm so sorry to hear that, dear. Which reminds me of the time I stubbed my toe in the midst of a handstand. Then as I plunged to the ground in pure and absolute agony, a hair got stuck in the carpet and it got yanked out. It was horrid.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2011 15:24:34 GMT -5
". . . a hair got stuck in the carpet and it got yanked out".
If your hair yanked out the carpet - might I suggest using some shampoo?
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Post by sadie on Aug 23, 2011 15:47:42 GMT -5
Lewis is exactly right.....what is the matter with your hair or is it your carpet???
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Post by Jessiealan on Aug 23, 2011 20:23:11 GMT -5
Why would anyone keep a toxic person for a friend?
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Post by Wonder Woman on Aug 23, 2011 21:17:52 GMT -5
Ohmahgosh, Lewis and Sadie!! It hadn't occurred to me before this............... someone must have applied glue to the carpet in the exact spot where I do handstands. Wonder who I should sue for the carpet replacement? Do YOU know who it mighta been?
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Post by sadie on Aug 23, 2011 21:19:18 GMT -5
I don't believe you start out to do that.......I think it is something that creeps up on you..........I think they kind of keep it together at first.......and then there are just a few things.....that you put off to little quirks.....or a bad mood......and after awhile.....it just seems the bad moods are more and more often........and you either walk away.....or have cooling off periods........
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2011 9:15:26 GMT -5
That's what husbands are for.
Just go for a week without speaking to us, and we'll figure out sooner or later that - whatever your problem is - it's our fault.
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Post by sadie on Aug 24, 2011 11:25:37 GMT -5
Ohmahgosh, Lewis and Sadie!! It hadn't occurred to me before this............... someone must have applied glue to the carpet in the exact spot where I do handstands. Wonder who I should sue for the carpet replacement? Do YOU know who it mighta been? Like I'm going to 'fess up to it!! But you should be able to sue the carpet manufacturer, the people that put it in, and even whatever company made the van or truck that brought the carpet to your house!!! And sue a random glue company just for chuckles!
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Post by ladylinda on Aug 24, 2011 11:34:28 GMT -5
The nearest thing we've got to a toxic friend is a guy who's the same age as Mike (53).
They've know each other since they were both 16 (they met at a poetry group) and they're both big fans of each other's poetry.
Sadly, as he's got older he's become a bit self-pitying and demanding.
Even so (and he can be wearing) I wouldn't call him toxic.
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Post by sadie on Aug 24, 2011 12:49:21 GMT -5
I think that is a good point, Linda......some are friends that you have had since childhood.......and just with the years.....their outlook and attitude have changed........but you still have that bond of childhood.....so it can be hard to just walk away from them.
I don't think the word toxic here is necessarily taken so literally.....just that they truly tire you out and can be quite wearing on you.....it's like they suck so much energy you are just exhausted from dealing with them! They are either gloom and doom or a whole lot of drama!
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Post by maggie on Aug 24, 2011 13:14:41 GMT -5
Ohmahgosh, Lewis and Sadie!! It hadn't occurred to me before this............... someone must have applied glue to the carpet in the exact spot where I do handstands. Wonder who I should sue for the carpet replacement? Do YOU know who it mighta been? A toxic friend? ;D
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2011 17:03:34 GMT -5
Did you ever get the duck thing figured out?
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Post by beth on Aug 24, 2011 19:50:24 GMT -5
This is a realllllllllllllly strange thread ... especially for Deep Thought. In the first place, it may be necessary to define "friend". I think there is a fine but distinct line between a personal relationship with a "friend" and a casual relationship (or perhaps, not even that) with others we just happen to know. I can't think of a single real friend I'd consider toxic, but there are several people I know casually who I try to keep some distance from. Who knows, they may feel the same way about me!! Some personalities are not compatible, and it has nothing to do with the value of the people involved. Isn't that how everyone makes and keeps good friendships ... compatible people who enjoy each other's company? Compatible - Capable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with another or othersThere are casual friends who are valued in the same way ... just a few who need to respect a need for distance. Some long time friends have now become less close because of living far away or losing common interests, but are still friends .. and, it's very cool ... when we see them with years in-between, it's like it's only been days ... weeks at most. Very nice.
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Post by Wonder Woman on Aug 25, 2011 9:10:21 GMT -5
In all seriousness, I believe many friendships are formed (particularly online) based on the needs of the persons involved. When the needs (wants) of one (or both) change, so does the friendship. Seems like more and more the word 'friend' and the significant bond it implies are thrown round as easily as they are thrown out. Such 'friendships' may be viewed as toxic, since they are false, and even hurtful. A real friend finds the good inside the imperfections.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2011 10:10:42 GMT -5
" A real friend finds the good inside the imperfections. "
Very, very true. But then, isn't that what we're supposed to do with everybody? I would certainly hope people would do that for me - or I'd likely have no friends at all.
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